​Don’t be me!

Have you ever jumped into conclusions and made a scene out of nothing? , at the time of the occurrence you fail to recognise the nothingness of the situation. In your head you develop a theory/ a scenario/ a story of what the truth is and you refuse to be told otherwise. You ask questions but never give the respondent time to respond, you respond your own questions, and you really think you have the situation figured out.
Well I hate to admit it, but that’s me, just yesterday I was faced with such a situation and I ‘took control’ of it – literally ‘took control’ of it. I was asking and answering my own questions, crying and making a fuss, I couldn’t be told that the ‘A’ i see is ‘B’. By so doing I perpetuated the situation to last longer than it should have, which I so regret now, my tears and my 12 hours gone to waste- yes I was mad and bothered for 12 hours.

The disagreement happened last night around 10pm, from there I ‘watched’ a series – or should I say the television watched me? because I really don’t remember anything from the series, I was just absorbed in my thoughts. I was crying, my heart was broken and I dozed off on the cough, as a result I had horrible dreams. When I woke up today at least I could think and reason better but I was still mad and still thought I was right. I went to the gym (well you know I bathed and had breakfast first, I didn’t just wake up and go 😃), when I came back 3 hours later I was a bit calm, ready to get real answers and ready to review the evidence. Do you remember the ‘A’ i saw yesterday?, it was actually ‘B’ for real – it is even written down how did I miss it? Indeed we see what we want to see and hear what we want to hear at times. Now how do you apologise after such an act? I am ashamed and embarrassed by my doing. I am sorry… I am sorry! The three magical words fixed the mess I had made (but remember you have to mean it).

This incident reminded me of this quote “I’m selfish, impatient and a little insecure. I make mistakes, I am out of control and at times hard to handle. But if you can’t handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don’t deserve me at my best” Marilyn Monroe

Now don’t be me… be better than me. 

Learning from my mistakes.

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20 Comments Add yours

  1. Avi Jake says:

    Very well written. I guess we all go through these kind of situations in our daily lives. 😊

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    1. bafikile says:

      Yes… definitely! and we never learn, do we?😃. Thank you for the response🌼

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  2. Very nice, thought provoking post

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    1. bafikile says:

      Am glad you liked it… thank you for reading🌺

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  3. derrickchasauka says:

    Good thing you ended up apologising.we jump into conclusions and feel insecure cause we have done exactly the same thing and now when it happens to you it hits You harder ,so it’s like reliving your past just now the tables turned.hope u get my point.
    Well written!

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    1. bafikile says:

      Yes but sometimes (which is most of the time) we jump into conclusions because of our experiences – e.g being lied to before (it doesn’t have to be specifically by the person you are quarreling with) , or just because the situation looks similar to one you onces encountered and you remember how it unfolded at the end. Hope i make sense too. Thank you for reading and responding hey💖

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      1. derrickchasauka says:

        Yes exactly my point,past experiences.
        I think it’s also important to learn that what goes around comes around,i did.and your story just reminded me of what happened to me.pleasure,enjoy your day

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      2. bafikile says:

        Thank you for expressing your opinion on the topic. Enjoy your day too.

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  4. Half the battle of ourselves is realizing when we are in the wrong and apologizing when we are as fast as possible. You seem such a lovely person to realize do both the instant you realize it! You’re a kind person 🙂 with a good heart!

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    1. bafikile says:

      Thank you so much… so sweet!

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  5. daodeqi says:

    my favorite so far!

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    1. bafikile says:

      Thank you… am glad you like it! ☺

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  6. This really sounds like you’ve written from the heart, it’s nice to see how purely it’s coming from you. Yes, I relate – who wouldn’t – but what you said at the end is the most important. Always be willing to accept that you were wrong if you were, and if you’ve got people who truly care about you they’ll forgive you without a second thought, provided you really mean it.

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    1. bafikile says:

      Thank you so much for making time to visit and drop me a response, i appreciate it – i am glad you agree and relate🌻, it’s encouraging to me to know that am not some weirdo😂😃.

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  7. Also I’m yet to see the other kinds of things you write (so i don’t know if you write any fiction), but something that immediately struck me while reading this was that I’d love to read a story of what actually happened – obviously with some details changed so you’re not putting your private life all over the internet, and perhaps dramatised a bit to bring out a comic element perhaps. It could be really interesting to read!

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    1. bafikile says:

      Wow… what a thought!. Thank you so much, i will consider it, am already feeling excited just thinking about it. I appreciate this hey 💞💖

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      1. Can’t wait to see it if you do!

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  8. Roda says:

    Hi Bafikile!
    I have nominated you for the Liebster Award! Check it out.
    https://growingself.blog/2017/04/24/the-liebster-award/?iframe=true&theme_preview=true

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    1. bafikile says:

      Thank you! finally responded to it😃💖

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