A strong black young lady

You handle conversations well with people, your molar teeth even shows while you laugh. The next person (your colleague) looks at you and sees the glow. She thinks to herself “wow, I wish i was her, she is always happy”. Your world is bloomy and rosey, she thinks. You are perfect, you have it together. Your Facebook, instagram and twitter account confirms it all.

After work you go home. You get to the house and shoot straight to your bedroom, you sit on the bed for some time thinking things through. You feel so overwhelmed. You literally do not know what to do anymore to change the situation. Then you start to wonder “what do people do when they do not know what to do?”. You wish you could just scream and cry but crying has not changed the situation previously therefore you hold yourself.

You kneel down beside your bed and pray for God to invade the situation. You stand up, sit on the bed again and start thinking again, but now you start to realise how grateful and thankful you should be. Even though the sun is not shining that bright for you right now, but you are thankful, thankful for your family, thankful for the shelter you have, for the food you have, the cloths, the friends and the loving and supportive boyfriend you have. All of a sudden your problem seems small. You smile from within. You also realise yes your current job is not what you love, yes it is not even aligned to the career you want and studied for, but it is definitely better than nothing and you are grateful for it . All you can do for now is to keep developing yourself while you keep looking and applying for the job you really long for.

{Image from the Queen Code page on facebook}

I chose to write about this experience of mine because i am not alone in this boat. I come across a lot of young people here in South Africa who have qualifications but are struggling to get a job or even an internship in their field of study and they have to settle for odd jobs to earn a living .

Young women you are Strong, Capable, sufficient, Intelligent, Beautiful  and Worthy.

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23 Comments Add yours

  1. Growing Self says:

    Stay strong! Always remember to stay true to yourself! Just Be You!

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    1. bafikile says:

      Thank you for the advice.. i will.

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  2. What an impressive lady you are indeed! Kuddos to you for all you have done to better you and your beautiful baby girl’s lives!! Keep on keeping on – it’s sooooo worth it!!!

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    1. bafikile says:

      Thank you so much!. I will keep on indeed.

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  3. Annetta Gansallo says:

    truely inspiring write up sis. keep on pushing.

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    1. bafikile says:

      Thank you 😙

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  4. bowale says:

    Inspiring write-up……When u don’t give up, u cannot fail!!!

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  5. bafikile says:

    What a beautiful response.. yes, you olny fail when you choose to give up. Thanks for visiting my blog.

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  6. realdeets says:

    This was extremely well written and narrative flows very beautifully. Just perfect. Love your blog.

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    1. bafikile says:

      Thank you for visiting my blog and for the lovely feedback. Much appreciated.

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  7. this post represents not only you, but almost all.. a post worth a read 😉

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    1. bafikile says:

      Thank you for taking the time to read my post. And yes they is just alot of us facing this challenge.

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      1. I think this post would do much better if you can find what interests you and pursue that…

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  8. How beautifully said. Today you have made me think about all of the things I am thankful for. That is a true gift and I am thankful for you! Your writing is wonderful. It flows nicely and it made me feel like I was sitting right next to you as you were going through these thoughts.

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    1. bafikile says:

      Fantastic words… i am touched and inspired to write more. Thank you for the response. Much appreciated.

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  9. dkayperry says:

    Nice narrative…sucked me in…and if it makes you feel any better, I’m 53 and still searching for the same answers. Not sure it’s possible to find them. But the journey is a blast (or can be) if you give in to the struggles. I, too, find myself chastising myself for not being grateful for all the things I DO have and focusing only on what I DON’T have. It’s a human conundrum I think.

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    1. bafikile says:

      I appreciate the response, it’s comforting to know am not the only one who goes through all this… Thank you for your sweet words.

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  10. Cherylene says:

    Well said! It’s tough to see the good in challenging situations but we be grateful and we must never give up!

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    1. bafikile says:

      Yes, giving up is not an option… we have to keep Faith and keep pushing. The hustle is real. Thank you for visiting my blog and responding to my posts💓.

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  11. kholeka says:

    I always say….Giving up its not an option. Thanks for kind words. YOh encourage so many young woman out there. Stay blessed.

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    1. bafikile says:

      Thank you 💓

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  12. Trisha says:

    Esto, ¿qué quiere decir?, ¿que se está acercando hacia el Sistema Solar? ¿A cuánta distancia está del Sistema Solar? ¿Se pueden obtener datos acerca de su apnxiimacoór, distancia y velocidad? ¿Cuándo se sabrá realmente de lo qué es y si lo que irradia puede o está produciendo perturbaciones en las inmediaciones del Sistema Solar? Según lo que se está observando, ¿en cuánto tiempo más (meses, años) se podrían tener datos precisos de este evento?Saludos

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    1. bafikile says:

      Unfortunately i can’t read the language you wrote in… but thank you for the response, i appreciate it.

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